DEAR ABBY: I’ve a detailed pal who just lately had a child with critical well being issues. Sadly, we reside on reverse sides of the nation, and I can’t afford to fly on the market. I wish to assist, however in need of calls and texts to let her know I’m pondering of her, I’m out of concepts.
She’s talked about a number of occasions that with all of the work of being a brand new father or mother plus the additional work concerned with a baby with particular wants, she typically doesn’t have time to arrange wholesome meals and reverts to junk meals that she will seize simply. Ordinarily, I’d deliver over just a few meals to assist out, however that’s not possible to do when she’s so far-off.
Restaurant present playing cards could be an possibility, however sadly she and her husband don’t have the time to go to 1. I’m hoping you may need different concepts on how I will help out from afar. — PUZZLED ABOUT HELPING
DEAR PUZZLED: Go browsing and analysis meals supply providers within the metropolis or city the place your pal lives. Some companies ship ready meals on a weekly foundation. Different corporations ship packing containers of great fruits each month. However earlier than doing something, ASK your overwhelmed pal what she and her husband assume could be useful moderately than attempt to second-guess.
DEAR ABBY: I’d wish to know if there’s a good approach of asking my niece and her boyfriend, who’re of their mid- to late-20s, to not deliver their telephones to the dinner desk? I’ve spent days making ready for and cooking vacation meals. The night was lower than pleasurable for me as a result of they had been solely partly there, and spent most of their time texting and presumably on Fb.
It’s awkward to ask an grownup to observe good manners. Any phrases of knowledge might be a lot appreciated. — WELL-MANNERED LADY IN THE WEST
DEAR LADY: Clarify to your niece that you simply spend lots of time, cash and energy on presenting these meals, and that you simply had been damage and offended at their obvious lack of appreciation. It’s the reality. Don’t preoccupy your self with making an attempt to be good or you’ll weaken the message. Some households resolve this drawback by insisting their friends place their cellphones in a basket earlier than dinner and reclaim them as they depart. (Only a thought!)
DEAR ABBY: My pal from church casually talked about that he and his spouse just lately helped themselves to a number of buckets of sand from a nationwide park. I’m beside myself making an attempt to know how they’ll justify pillaging a pure useful resource to allow them to faux they’re on the seashore. It’s past egocentric and simply plain flawed. What can I say to persuade them to return it? Are you able to assist me navigate this dialog whereas nonetheless sustaining the friendship? — SHOCKED IN HAWAII
DEAR SHOCKED: Begin by declaring to your mates that there are critical penalties for doing what he and his spouse did. I ran your letter by my former private assistant, Winni, who lives in Hawaii. She knowledgeable me that, in accordance with the Division of Land and Pure Assets, stealing sand from the seashores will not be solely in opposition to the regulation, but additionally punishable with fines of upwards of $100,000.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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