DEAR ABBY: I’ve an in depth pal who just lately had a child with critical well being issues. Sadly, we reside on reverse sides of the nation, and I am unable to afford to fly on the market. I wish to assist, however wanting calls and texts to let her know I am considering of her, I am out of concepts.
She’s talked about a number of instances that with all of the work of being a brand new mum or dad plus the additional work concerned with a baby with particular wants, she typically does not have time to arrange wholesome meals and reverts to junk meals that she will be able to seize simply. Ordinarily, I might convey over a number of meals to assist out, however that is unattainable to do when she’s so distant.
Restaurant reward playing cards could be an possibility, however sadly she and her husband haven’t got the time to go to at least one. I am hoping you may need different concepts on how I can assist out from afar. — PUZZLED ABOUT HELPING
DEAR PUZZLED: Go surfing and analysis meals supply companies within the metropolis or city the place your pal lives. Some companies ship ready meals on a weekly foundation. Different firms ship containers of great fruits each month. However earlier than doing something, ASK your overwhelmed pal what she and her husband assume could be useful quite than attempt to second-guess.
DEAR ABBY: I might prefer to know if there’s a good approach of asking my niece and her boyfriend, who’re of their mid- to late-20s, to not convey their telephones to the dinner desk? I’ve spent days making ready for and cooking vacation meals. The night was lower than gratifying for me as a result of they have been solely partly there, and spent most of their time texting and presumably on Fb.
It is awkward to ask an grownup to follow good manners. Any phrases of knowledge can be a lot appreciated. — WELL-MANNERED LADY IN THE WEST
DEAR LADY: Clarify to your niece that you just spend loads of time, cash and energy on presenting these meals, and that you just have been harm and offended at their obvious lack of appreciation. It is the reality. Don’t preoccupy your self with making an attempt to be good or you’ll weaken the message. Some households resolve this downside by insisting their friends place their cellphones in a basket earlier than dinner and reclaim them as they depart. (Only a thought!)
DEAR ABBY: My pal from church casually talked about that he and his spouse just lately helped themselves to a number of buckets of sand from a nationwide park. I am beside myself making an attempt to grasp how they’ll justify pillaging a pure useful resource to allow them to faux they’re on the seaside. It is past egocentric and simply plain fallacious. What can I say to persuade them to return it? Are you able to assist me navigate this dialog whereas nonetheless sustaining the friendship? — SHOCKED IN HAWAII
DEAR SHOCKED: Begin by stating that there are critical penalties for doing what he and his spouse did. I ran your letter by my former private assistant, Winni, who lives in Hawaii. She knowledgeable me that, in line with the Division of Land and Pure Assets, stealing sand from the seashores is in opposition to the regulation, punishable with fines of upwards of $100,000.
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